carchrism5
Go Kart Champion
- Location
- CT
- Car(s)
- GTI
So I am in college now, and I have a friend that lives in my apartment building that I have known for about a year. Not a great friend, he loves asking me for things, but very often does not come through when I need something (like when I had to pick up my car from a shop at a specific time, and if i did not I would not be able to pick it up for another week and have to pay storage) he said he was busy and went to Foot Locker instead. But he had no problem asking me to take him to pick up his car at 8am on a Saturday morning. Thats just one example.
Now for the wedding he asked me to be a groomsman (1 of 8) and i was surprised so i thought i would go. For the wedding he has not been very good at organizing, he is trying to pinch every penny he can at other people's expense, like im 20 years old, i cant rent a car and the hotel is 45 mins from the airport, and mind you most ppl that are going are under 25 and cant rent a car either, and he has no way or suggestion on how to get to the hotel.
When i started tallying up the costs I am up to almost $700 for just flight, hotel, tux rental. That does not include any food, airport to hotel transportation or a gift. It will easily be $1,000 for this weekend, and i have to miss a day of work.
Not to make it about money, but I started to think about the past and realized that if the positions were swapped he would NOT go to my wedding if it would cost him this much money or even effort. Part of me thinks he invited me so that he could get a good gift, I am fortunate and he knows that, he thinks because of that I will buy him a gift like a vacation for a week (i am not kidding, he actually was talking to me and mentioned that would be a great wedding gift). So i would not pass it by him that he invited me to be a part of the wedding for that reason.
If i were to say "I cannot afford to go and give you a gift, I can either go or just buy you a gift" he would want to chose the gift.
The wedding is in just over 2 months and as of now I am supposed to be going, but I don't think I want to drop $1k for a weekend for a friend that wouldnt do the same for me,
What do you guys think
(and yes i know, car forums arent places to ask for real advice but hopefully someone will respond with good comments)
Thanks
Now for the wedding he asked me to be a groomsman (1 of 8) and i was surprised so i thought i would go. For the wedding he has not been very good at organizing, he is trying to pinch every penny he can at other people's expense, like im 20 years old, i cant rent a car and the hotel is 45 mins from the airport, and mind you most ppl that are going are under 25 and cant rent a car either, and he has no way or suggestion on how to get to the hotel.
When i started tallying up the costs I am up to almost $700 for just flight, hotel, tux rental. That does not include any food, airport to hotel transportation or a gift. It will easily be $1,000 for this weekend, and i have to miss a day of work.
Not to make it about money, but I started to think about the past and realized that if the positions were swapped he would NOT go to my wedding if it would cost him this much money or even effort. Part of me thinks he invited me so that he could get a good gift, I am fortunate and he knows that, he thinks because of that I will buy him a gift like a vacation for a week (i am not kidding, he actually was talking to me and mentioned that would be a great wedding gift). So i would not pass it by him that he invited me to be a part of the wedding for that reason.
If i were to say "I cannot afford to go and give you a gift, I can either go or just buy you a gift" he would want to chose the gift.
The wedding is in just over 2 months and as of now I am supposed to be going, but I don't think I want to drop $1k for a weekend for a friend that wouldnt do the same for me,
What do you guys think
(and yes i know, car forums arent places to ask for real advice but hopefully someone will respond with good comments)
Thanks
