Yeah I have to admit I won't be cutting into any original wiring either, i'll just buy the male / female plugs first and just make my own harness.
I believe I might some information but I can't be 100% sure until I take the door card back off to check the wiring with a volt meter...
I believe pin 16 is been used by the door handle light and has been set to be always on, even with the head lights off so it lights up the door handle - it does fade in / out when the car is locked or if it is left for a while without the key in so it does power off but all the door card lights are lit when the head lights are on / nothing is off when the door is closed. So what I am saying is the function of the light does not act like it should do for a exit light when the door is open / closed (fade on when the door is open and fade off when closed).
Interestingly I did disable the exit light is installed option on my OBD11 but nothing changed (I was expecting a light to no longer be lit on the door handle). I need to plug in my VAGCOM cable to the computer to look properly but does anyone have ideas from this? Is there perhaps a way to change the way the light works so it acts like an exit light which fades in / out when the door is open instead of been on all the time for the door handle (presuming this is how it is wired up, need to double check).
If this can be recoded then I'll just make a wire harness which connects the exit light to pin 16 which will then work normally then just wire the door handle light and the handle LED together. (3 lights on the door - door handle, handle and strip at the top of the door card) Hope this makes sense and thank-you in advanced.
Worst case scenario, I'll just wire the exit light to the mirror puddle light... It'll just be lit even if the doors closed (unlocking) then will go off.