I'm also at this point. I installed APR dogbone insert, and after the inevitable "settling" post-install (1K miles or so of driving), I feel that the engine/trans movement has returned to levels that feel, frankly, not too different from stock.
I'm bringing the car into Smith VW tomorrow for ye ole pano leak. While I'm there, going to have them check the torque spec on the bolts to make sure they didn't loosen post-install like my Superpro Endlinks. If the looseness is still there after retorquing, I am going to remove the insert and inpsect the dogbone bushing itself for damage from the steel insert.
If the steel insert has just clobbered the bushing (which is entirely plausible, perhaps likely since the rubber is pretty soft), I will likely replace with either another OEM dogbone bushing and replace the upper eng/trans mounts with BFI Stage 1, and throw in the powerflex Stage 1 insert. It's lower durometer than BFI's Stage 2 dogbone insert, but has the same arms that extend to the upper bushing. BFI's Stage 1 insert does not have arms reaching up to the upper bushing.