This is a clarification/correction of inaccurate info from me in post #31. Credit to user @darkchina811 on the Ross Tech Forums for catching my error and providing the correct info.
Final verdict on 2 pin connectors, after confusing myself with wrong accelerometers. So when I did my initial research I found DCC accelerometer part number
5Q0 907 651, which is indicated in one of my early posts in this thread
. I bought one on eBay (for the rear left), waiting for a good deal to buy the other two for the front. What the seller sent me is accelerometer part number
5Q0 959 651 
. I didn't notice this. But when I started fitting parts to secure wire routing the 2 pin connector wouldn't connect. The rear side impact sensor is in the same area and has a similarly shaped connector (yellow, PN
5K0 973 323). This connector plugged right into the sensor I had received on eBay (not the right part number, but I still had not noticed).
I then compared part numbers of my eBay sensor and the side impact sensor. They were the same... but having never looked up the side impact sensor I
incorrectly concluded that the side impact sensors and DCC accelerometers were all the same part number. I should have just referenced my earlier post to be sure, haha. Based on that
incorrect assumption, aided by having received the wrong part number sensor... I started down the path of buying new (unnecessary) connectors.
So... DCC accelerometers and dampers all use the same connector. The connectors that came on my harness should work for all. And it's worth noting that the connectors on my harness are
4F0 973 702. Based on pictures this is a match for
4H0 973 702 A (part number provided by @darkchina811 on Ross Tech forums, who built their own harness) but it is
not a match for
4H0 973 702 (without the A).