Thanks for the info. I had the APR Stage 1 ECU and TCU tunes taken off 2 days ago (paid service fees of almost $200 to have them pulled), and I'm a little surprised at how strong the car still is with the factory tune and the only remaining mods are APR carbon fiber intake, intercooler, and exhaust - and no uncomfortable power surges.
I'm gonna roll like this for a while and then try an EQT \ Cobb AP Stage 1 to see how it behaves. Based on The EQT info you posted and linked, it sounds like this is not all in my head, and it's not supposed to be that way, and EQT has massaged their tune to correct for that problem.
Maybe EQT can be a little more nimble and proactive as a much smaller company that's still living on entrepreneurial spirit.
I wish the APR software was available through Cobb AP so I could toggle back and forth between OEM, APR, EQT, and even Cobb w/o the hassle and expense of going to my APR dealer to get it loaded and unloaded. I'd help them troubleshoot their build in a heartbeat if it didn't cost me time and money - my billable rate is $475 an hour is Arin wants to factor that into their dev budget.