Final update,
Called two days later and pointed out the 0w-20 oil weight, got " running change, based on your VIN..." didn't buy it. So decided to do my own research, two other dealers pretty much said what I knew, 502.00 or 504.00. Online manual has same thing for '18 and '19 R's 502 or 504. My underhood sticker also has 502 or504. So I went in to the dealer today. Got same story from service advisor. However, he did say VW keeps switching weights on other cars, we can double check with Parts dept, they can pull up more info.
So I do and it turns out I am right. While getting the oil changed ( for second time now) there was a '19 R in the showroom, pop the hood and it says 0w-30 & 504 spec ( which is close, but doesn't match manual). Manual on the '19 has different specs for Golf R, GTI, and Golf ( my '18 manual just stated 502, 503, 504 with no model breakdown) has 502 or 504 for Golf R and now they list 508 for the GTI.
Service adv said the Tiguan in '18 had 3 different specs during production run. Surprised there is not more confusion with oils. He did say they went with lighter oil to keep the VVT sensors happy.