Isn't the cobb tc only enabled if you have the cobb plugged in and turn off the oem traction all the way?
No, Cobb TC and OEM TC are 2 totally independent systems. Generally you'll turn off the OEM one and be left with Cobb only. But normally both systems are active, but you'd expect the OEM to be primary since its more aggressive in how it limits wheel slip etc. Cobb TC only pulls ignition timing to help control wheel spin. I've seen it pull something like 20-25 degrees timing on launch.
Having the AP plugged in makes no difference whether or not it works, the 'feature' is part of the tune/ECU.
You have to use the AP to adjust the Cobb TC settings. There's slots 1-9. The slots basically have a set percent of targeted/max allowed wheel spin. Slot 1 is least amount of slip, 7 is highest amount of slip, and 8 is disabled. 9 is for dyno mode or something. Default slot is 3 for EQT tunes.
So to turn it off, you have to have the AP plugged in....click thru some menus, disable it. And it resets every time you start the car.