So far I have about 200 highway miles, plus about 50 city miles on the HPA mount. Until messing with it tonight, the NVH was AWFUL, like to the point of ruining the car. The pedals, steering wheel, seats, dash, etc. would all shake horribly. I was really starting to get discouraged with the mount. Anyways, tonight I finally had some time to mess with it, and have noticed a huge improvement with NVH. Here's what I did:
1) I raised the idle by 50 RPM (the maximum supported by OBD11 & VCDS). After everything warms up, I now idle around 750-800 RPM without lights, fan, or A/C. This didn't make a huge difference in NVH, but certainly was an improvement.
2) Loosened all the bolts and re-torqued. See the pic below. The puck is torqued to 100 Nm (74 ft-lbs), the sideways bolt through the dogbone arm is torqued to 70 Nm (52 ft-lbs), and the 2 bolts towards the front into the tranny are torqued to 40 Nm (30 ft-lbs). This definitely made a difference too, but again, nothing HUGE.
3) This last thing I did is what I think really helped. I took the car out, and gave it the beans several times in first gear, trying to induce a bit of wheel hop in order to put some stress on the mount and hopefully break it in. I think beating on it a bit is what really helped break it in and settle the NVH.
Side note, yes, it does still hop a little bit with the new mount, but it is soooooo muted compared to stock. It no longer sounds like a machine gun and feel like it's going to break the car in half.
I can still definitely notice a slight increase in NVH vs. stock, but the steering wheel, pedals, etc. no longer shake like crazy. Someone who is unfamiliar with our cars might not even suspect anything. For the moment I would say NVH feels similar to how my old 034 insert felt, give or take. I'm hoping it settles in even more over the next couple hundred miles, and at that point I will re-torque everything one more time just for good measure.
Bottom line is, I feel like I have my car back, except with the positive improvements of the HPA mount. Right now I am finally fully satisfied with the mount. I appreciate everyone's input and advice!